Hello, It’s Me! (I’m not the problem)

Hey there,

Wowza, it’s been over a year since I’ve written a blog post. Lots and lots has been happening in my world!! So much so that I don’t even know where to start…

Also, just want to send out a quick “thank you” for reading. You help me to feel seen and heard which is a pretty big deal from where I’m sitting. I appreciate you!

Here goes:

2022 was the best and the worst year of my life.
The best year because all of my dreams came true: I got a puppy, I got engaged and I moved into my first home.
The worst year because all of my time management techniques came to bite me in the butt and I didn’t know how to cope with my newfound responsibilities. I was burnt out without a hose to extinguish myself. I was essentially smouldering while trying to go through my daily life. I kept thinking that something had to change but I couldn’t put my finger on it – I’m sure you can appreciate how frustrating that is!!

Then one day, it was decided that I was going to work for my coaching friend. She had an overflow of potential clients and I was burning the candle at both ends trying to keep up with my website/marketing/client funnel, etc. Match made in heaven: no more admin for me and a solution to meet the demands of her waitlist for her. This gave me more time and space for those fore-mentioned responsibilities in my personal life!

Here’s another thing that happened that I want to give myself credit for: I decided to take it slow. Rather than stuffing my schedule, I decided I would take 3 or 4 clients a day and give myself Mondays and Fridays to do admin or whatever I needed. This was ABSOLUTE heaven. Then, over time, I got my groove and decided how I wanted to schedule my days and what would leave me feeling energized (rather than depleted).

The other important thing: I managed my clients expectations of me and our work together. I clearly defined what their role would be and what mine would be. This allowed me to gain so much energy and no longer left me drained after our coaching sessions. Now, when I do feel drained I can have a self check-in to explore how I may have been operating during the session and what may have zapped my energy (was I taking responsibility for my clients outcome).

Ok, ok, so what does all of this have to do with what prompted me to hop on here and write up this post?! I have some learning and exploring to do! Just re-reading that line brings my heart joy and takes me to my happy place. I love to learn!

My time management tricks and tips really, really aren’t serving me anymore. I’ve realized that they are actually my downfall. I have some unlearning to do. Or, as Human Design calls it: I have some deconditioning to do!!

So, here’s the thoughts rambling around in my head that I want to explore:

  1. Specify + unlearn the time management tips that are no longer serving me.
  2. Explore the nervous system (sympathetic + parasympathetic).
  3. Somatic coaching and having more of a connection with our bodies in general.
  4. Human Design (I’m a projector).
  5. Cards of Destiny (I’m a 6 of diamonds).

The three first points are from an idea that was planted in my brain by Kate Northrup. I recently watched a video that she posted where she explains the connection between money and your nervous system. I really feel that there is a connection between “time management”, productivity and the nervous system. When I go to do a task, I can feel my breath shorten, my jaw tighten and it feels like someones life is in danger unless I finish the task efficiently. This leaves little room for Alyssa to be a fun-loving human! #4 & #5 are areas that I want to give myself more space to have fun with.

More soon!

As always, would love to know your thoughts on all this.

Take care,

Alyssa (MissleadinglyADHD)

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